Parenting is hard.
And it just keeps getting harder.
(I’m learning that is the way with most things in life.) We have 4, soon to be 5 children. In the process of raising them, we have had
to make some tough decisions and had to have some tough conversations. We’ve laughed, we’ve cried, we’ve made
mistakes, we’ve tried to follow the Spirit, and mostly we’ve just worked every
day to let our children know they are loved.
I have had a lot of painful parenting experiences dealing with this lesson. (We’ve had a couple just recently at Church.) Every so often we will encounter an adult who has never had to deal with a child like ours. Those adults are often critical and impatient. I have watched them blame my children and I have felt their judgment towards us as parents. It hurts and it isn’t fair. I’ve shed many, many tears over the things I have had said to me about my children. My kids aren’t broken or bad because they are passionate and intense. Likewise, your kids are broken or bad because they’re quiet or shy. God sent us different kids. On purpose.
We all should feel confident making our parenting decisions based on the unique needs of our children. I have developed deep respect for several families who have chosen to home-school their children because they were inspired to know that it was the right thing for their children. Doug and I spend many hours seeking out specific coaches, teachers, and mentors who we feel will understand our children and show them the love they deserve--even on their most difficult days.